April 26, 2016

Characteristics of Codependency

According to Hands (1996), codependency is a complex set of behaviours, beliefs and attitudes involving:

  • Care-taking
  • Shame and low self-worth
  • Controlling
  • Obsession
  • Repression and denial
  • Lack of trust
  • Anger
  • Weak boundaries
  • Neglect of self

Typical manifestations of codependence are considered to be:

  • Difficulty in identifying personal feelings
  • Difficulty in acknowledging and expressing feelings
  • Difficulty in forming or maintaining close relationships
  • Being rigid or stuck in attitudes or behaviour
  • Being a perfectionist
  • Difficulty in adjusting to change
  • Feeling overly responsible for the behaviour or feelings of other people
  • Attempting to control the behaviours of others.

(Meacham 1989; Whitfield 1989; cited in Hands 1996)